Celebrating St. Valentine’s Day with “Our Song”

By Henry M. Holden 

February 14, Valentine’s Day, is a day dedicated to love. Love means caring for someone, putting their desires before your own, and having a real interest in their pleasure. The thing about romantic love is many of us find it hard to put it into words, and brain chemistry plays a role. 

High levels of dopamine and a related hormone, norepinephrine, are released during attraction. These chemicals make us giddy, energetic, and euphoric, even leading to decreased appetite and insomnia – which means you can be so “in love” that you can’t eat and can’t sleep, and your heart skips so many beats. 

Expressing love is perfect for anniversaries, weddings, engagement parties, Valentine’s Day, or for no special reason. One way is to “adopt” a song that the two of you heard together, perhaps on your first date and that will be your “Our Song.”  

Author Nicholas Sparks expressed it one way.  “The best love is the kind that awakens the soul; that makes us reach for more, that plants the fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That’s what I hope to give you forever.” — The Notebook

Poet Elizabeth Barrett Browning defined love a different way. “I love you not only for what you are but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out.” 

“The First Time, Ever I Saw Your Face,” was written by Ewan MacColl and over the years performed by many artists. One of the best versions of this love song was performed by Roberta Flack

“The first time, ever I saw your face, I thought the sun rose in your eyes, and the moon and the stars were the gifts you gave – to the dark, and the endless sky…” 

These are both skillful lyrics and provoke powerful love emotions.  

Okay, you are not a song writer, but fortunately, these inspirational love lyrics will make finding new ways to say “I love you” a lot easier.

Find a song that you feel says what you want to say, one that communicates your feelings and pass it on to that special person.

There are few vocalists that can wrap their song in velvet and whose voice will caress your heart. Etta James and “At Last” has one of those voices.

At last, My love has come along
My lonely days are over
And life is like a song

At last the skies above are blue
My heart was wrapped up in clover
The night I looked at you.


Perhaps you want to express how much you mean to the other person and how far you will take that love.

Simon and Garfunkel’s “Bridge over Troubled Waters,” is one way 

“When you’re weary, feeling small,
When tears are in your eyes, I’ll dry them all
I’m on your side
Oh, when times get rough and friends just can’t be found, Like a bridge over troubled waters I will lay me down…”

The Righteous Brothers – “Unchained Melody” is a romantic composition of everlasting love. A type of love so strong; one that connects two souls, so deeply in tune, with the spirit of each other.

 “Woah, my love, my darling, I’ve hungered for your touch, A long, lonely time, And time goes by so slowly, And time can do so much, Are you still mine? I need your love, I need your love, God speed your love to me.” 


“I Don’t Want to Miss a Thing” – Aerosmith 

The song is about treasuring every moment spent with another person. 

“I could stay awake just to hear you breathing, Watch you smile while you are sleeping, While you’re far away and dreaming, I could spend my life in this sweet surrender.” 

Bette Midler’s “Wind Beneath My Wings” – The person is part of your support system and without them you could not succeed.

“Did you ever know that you’re my hero? And everything I would like to be, I can fly higher than an eagle, For you are the wind beneath my wings.”

“You Raise Me Up” Josh Groban    

In 2004, Josh Groban’s version of “You Raise Me Up” was played more than 500,000 times on radio, topping the Billboard Adult Contemporary charts for 6 weeks.

“You raise me up so I can stand on mountains, You raise me up, to walk on stormy seas, I am strong when I am on your shoulders, you raise me up to more than I can be.”

Whitney Houston, “I Will Always Love You”

While remaining at the top of the charts for months after its introduction, it is now considered one of the finest love songs ever written (by Dolly Parton) even though it is filled with bittersweet memories.

I hope life treats you kind
And I hope you have all you’ve dreamed of
And I’m wishing you joy and happiness
But above all this, I wish you love’

“The Twelfth of Never “- Johnny Mathis 

The Twelfth of Never is an expression that defines the date of a future event that will never happen. In this song, the singer uses the phrase to explain that his love will last forever. A Timeless silky perfect voice, a true star, Mathis brought such joy to millions around this planet.

“You ask how much I need you, must I explain?
I need you, oh my darling, like roses need rain.
You ask how long I’ll love you; I’ll tell you true:
Until the twelfth of never, I’ll still be loving you.”

Brain chemistry and love songs may get love started, but the real keys to lasting relationships are found in your heart and soul.

Listen to the full lyrics of any of these songs, on YouTube. 


“Cuddles” is waiting for his/her big day in February. (Photo:  Henry M. Holden)

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