By Richard Mabey Jr.
I was always amazed how my mom, Janet Kemmerer Mabey, kept such a wonderfully joyous and happy spirit through tough times. Mom endured three major brain surgeries. The first of which took over six hours. Mom managed to keep a smile on her face through it all.
Mom loved children. Mom understood children in a very innate, inborn, spiritual way. For well over 20 years, Mom served as a Crossing Guard for the children of Lincoln Park. Mom made sure that the children safely crossed the street on their way to school and on their way home after school.
Mom earned an Associate’s Degree in psychology, at County College of Morris. She took a significant number of courses that focused on child psychology. Mom had always wanted to be a kindergarten teacher. Her dream was curtailed when she was diagnosed with having four brain aneurysms.
My mom and dad kept a certain youthful vigor to their marriage. They maintained a “young at heart” spirit, all through their 52 years of marriage. They kept a certain magical joy in their marriage. I never once heard my father say one despairing word about Mom. Never once.
Life isn’t always fair. Not at all. But it’s important to keep a joyous spirit alive in our hearts, even through the tough times. We can choose to be happy or sad, when tough times come. The choice is totally ours.
Love is the key that unlocks the chains of the feeling of hopelessness, despair, and depression. Love is the single most powerful force in the universe. Love can fill the human heart with joy, hope and faith, in the midst of the toughest times.
It’s important to keep a certain joy in our hearts, an almost child-like outlook on life. Please do not ever let anyone steal your joy, your wonder, your happiness. Guard your heart. Be aware that there are evil people out there, who want to steal you joy. Love one another. These are tough times. For truly, the world is in great need of loving hearts.
Richard Mabey Jr. is a freelance writer. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org. Please put on the subject line: I Remember Mom.